Post by Della Wren on Feb 26, 2023 13:29:42 GMT -6
If I had never allowed change I would not be here, like at all. I would not be writing this right now. I would not be talking about self-mastery. I'm not even sure I would have started out talking about tarot. All of those things required me to change. They all required me to get okay within myself and do things that were far outside of my comfort zone.
By doing all the things that were no where near my comfort zone I ended up here. I didn't plan that. I didn't start there. I had no intention of diving into some of these wounds that I've not only dived into now but also healed. All those things required me to change. I had to be okay with being uncomfortable. I had to be okay with not knowing. I had to be okay with figuring it out as I went along. I had to be okay with not being okay and then I had to figure out how to be okay with being okay.
Learning to be okay meant acceptance. Change and acceptance are two things that are tied together because it's really hard to create positive change without acceptance. It's really hard to create change when you're still mad at yourself or your experiences, because what you end up doing is reacting to what you're mad at. That may create change and a lot of it really quickly; but will it be the right change? Or will you just be reacting to all the things you don't like?
When you create change intentionally, it means you've found clarity and acceptance in the truth of where you are, how you got there, and all the experiences you had a long the way. You're not still beating yourself up for everything. You're no longer telling stories of blame, shame, guilt, or victimization. You're no longer mad at yourself for what you didn't know and couldn't do. You've allowed your life to show you what you needed to see, you've accepted that, and you've moved on to integrate that into your life in some way.
I've spent the last couple of weeks figuring out my latest hurdle and how to get around it. This has been one of the more challenging hurdles that I've jumped in the last while. This one sucked, let's be honest. This one really sucked. I had to fully let go of the idea of creating a business. Youch! I was tied to that goal - full stop. I started this journey 5 years ago(?) with the intention of creating a business. I ended up with a very clear message and no business to speak of. If somebody had told me then that this is what would happen, I wouldn't have even started.
People say all the time that they would go on the path if only they knew the outcome. The truth is the outcome would scare you to death. It would freak you the hell out because that truth is based on you removing all of your current fears. So you would see that outcome and you would run clear in the other direction. The outcome is not what you think or anything close to it.
Moving down this path has required me to change over and over and over again, to the point where I'm actually kind of tired now, but in a good way. I had to get okay with change because that was the only thing that was going to be consistent. It was probably going to change and I just needed to be okay with that. Doing that meant letting go of the fear of what the change would bring and what the outcome might be. I had to be okay with flying a bit blind. That's not always the easiest thing in the world to do, but it's possible.
Being okay with change means trusting that you're going to land on your feet. Sometimes I use the analogy of cliff jumping or skydiving because that's really what it feels like. The hardest part of skydiving is the jump itself. If you're like me, you question the point of jumping out of a perfectly good airplane, but if you skydive, then you enjoy the thrill of doing just that. It takes some guts to jump out of a plane. You have to be willing to accept the unknown when you do it. It's a relatively high risk thing to do and if something goes wrong, the outcome may be less than ideal. So you have to trust, go with it, and see what happens.
The same is true in life. You have to go with it. You have to trust and you have to see what happens. You have to be willing to jump the hurdle or dive off the cliff. You have to be willing to take the chance to see what happens. If you don't, you just take the plane ride back down and you never get the thrill of the jump. You just stay miserable a little longer. Who wants to do that?
You can allow change. You have to find acceptance first. Acceptance is the hardest part of change.
You can do it though. I know you can.
Love to all.
Della
By doing all the things that were no where near my comfort zone I ended up here. I didn't plan that. I didn't start there. I had no intention of diving into some of these wounds that I've not only dived into now but also healed. All those things required me to change. I had to be okay with being uncomfortable. I had to be okay with not knowing. I had to be okay with figuring it out as I went along. I had to be okay with not being okay and then I had to figure out how to be okay with being okay.
Learning to be okay meant acceptance. Change and acceptance are two things that are tied together because it's really hard to create positive change without acceptance. It's really hard to create change when you're still mad at yourself or your experiences, because what you end up doing is reacting to what you're mad at. That may create change and a lot of it really quickly; but will it be the right change? Or will you just be reacting to all the things you don't like?
When you create change intentionally, it means you've found clarity and acceptance in the truth of where you are, how you got there, and all the experiences you had a long the way. You're not still beating yourself up for everything. You're no longer telling stories of blame, shame, guilt, or victimization. You're no longer mad at yourself for what you didn't know and couldn't do. You've allowed your life to show you what you needed to see, you've accepted that, and you've moved on to integrate that into your life in some way.
I've spent the last couple of weeks figuring out my latest hurdle and how to get around it. This has been one of the more challenging hurdles that I've jumped in the last while. This one sucked, let's be honest. This one really sucked. I had to fully let go of the idea of creating a business. Youch! I was tied to that goal - full stop. I started this journey 5 years ago(?) with the intention of creating a business. I ended up with a very clear message and no business to speak of. If somebody had told me then that this is what would happen, I wouldn't have even started.
People say all the time that they would go on the path if only they knew the outcome. The truth is the outcome would scare you to death. It would freak you the hell out because that truth is based on you removing all of your current fears. So you would see that outcome and you would run clear in the other direction. The outcome is not what you think or anything close to it.
Moving down this path has required me to change over and over and over again, to the point where I'm actually kind of tired now, but in a good way. I had to get okay with change because that was the only thing that was going to be consistent. It was probably going to change and I just needed to be okay with that. Doing that meant letting go of the fear of what the change would bring and what the outcome might be. I had to be okay with flying a bit blind. That's not always the easiest thing in the world to do, but it's possible.
Being okay with change means trusting that you're going to land on your feet. Sometimes I use the analogy of cliff jumping or skydiving because that's really what it feels like. The hardest part of skydiving is the jump itself. If you're like me, you question the point of jumping out of a perfectly good airplane, but if you skydive, then you enjoy the thrill of doing just that. It takes some guts to jump out of a plane. You have to be willing to accept the unknown when you do it. It's a relatively high risk thing to do and if something goes wrong, the outcome may be less than ideal. So you have to trust, go with it, and see what happens.
The same is true in life. You have to go with it. You have to trust and you have to see what happens. You have to be willing to jump the hurdle or dive off the cliff. You have to be willing to take the chance to see what happens. If you don't, you just take the plane ride back down and you never get the thrill of the jump. You just stay miserable a little longer. Who wants to do that?
You can allow change. You have to find acceptance first. Acceptance is the hardest part of change.
You can do it though. I know you can.
Love to all.
Della