Post by Della Wren on Mar 17, 2023 10:51:50 GMT -6
Acceptance is a valid belief system.
Hate is a valid belief system.
They are the equal and opposite of each other. For every person that is accepting of other people regardless of their differences, there is somebody else who hates others based on those differences. This is the duality of the human experience.
Seeing both as valid is where the challenge lies, particularly for those that are accepting of others and their differences. The more accepting we are, the more the hate seems cruel. There is a sense of pain that comes with seeing the hate and not being able to fix it or make it go away. We tend to want to demonize people that have hate as a belief system. It's far more valuable though to question why the hate is there in the first place.
For many, it's a religious belief that they have been taught. The fear of God punishing them for accepting certain groups of people may actually deter them from changing those beliefs, even if they want to on some level. The religious beliefs came from leaders who hold views based on fear. They passed those fears onto other people. The way hate and fear grows is because it gets passed on from person to person. All it takes is some justification of the fear that makes sense to another person to get them to pick up the hate too.
What's interesting in the world right now is the discourse that's taking place. The group on the side of acceptance tries to force acceptance onto everyone and then proceeds to demonize those that don't pick it up. The group on the side of hate doesn't force anybody to join them. The conversation continually ends up in the same place; stop making me believe what you believe. This is a valid argument when you understand that hate is a valid belief system. The choice to accept is just as valid as the choice to hate. Both are equal and opposite.
Forcing acceptance onto others is forcing people to change their belief systems.
Would you change your belief system on demand because somebody else decided they didn't like what you believed?
No. So why do we continue to try to do this to each other?
We do it because what we see is that when the hate is projected out it causes pain. Acceptance projected out doesn't necessarily cause pain. Hate means you deny service to somebody. Acceptance means everybody is welcome. One causes pain and one doesn't. That simple difference is why we try to force change onto people. We see the denial as mean or cruel or racist and so on. Because we see it that way we try to demand change and we stop seeing the hate as a valid belief system.
We can't continue to respond this way to each other because it doesn't work. The demand to change their belief system or to accept people they have decided to hate is not going to fly. We're not going to get anywhere doing that. We have to change the conversation by looking for the root cause of the hate and then working to heal that.
A person's ability to question their own beliefs is limited by the amount of fear they have around changing or questioning that belief. The more afraid they are of the consequences of changing it, the less likely they are to question it.
We can't demand acceptance. We have to heal the hate instead. Those are two entirely different things and they require two entirely different approaches.
It's time to change the conversation.
Love to all.
Della
Hate is a valid belief system.
They are the equal and opposite of each other. For every person that is accepting of other people regardless of their differences, there is somebody else who hates others based on those differences. This is the duality of the human experience.
Seeing both as valid is where the challenge lies, particularly for those that are accepting of others and their differences. The more accepting we are, the more the hate seems cruel. There is a sense of pain that comes with seeing the hate and not being able to fix it or make it go away. We tend to want to demonize people that have hate as a belief system. It's far more valuable though to question why the hate is there in the first place.
For many, it's a religious belief that they have been taught. The fear of God punishing them for accepting certain groups of people may actually deter them from changing those beliefs, even if they want to on some level. The religious beliefs came from leaders who hold views based on fear. They passed those fears onto other people. The way hate and fear grows is because it gets passed on from person to person. All it takes is some justification of the fear that makes sense to another person to get them to pick up the hate too.
What's interesting in the world right now is the discourse that's taking place. The group on the side of acceptance tries to force acceptance onto everyone and then proceeds to demonize those that don't pick it up. The group on the side of hate doesn't force anybody to join them. The conversation continually ends up in the same place; stop making me believe what you believe. This is a valid argument when you understand that hate is a valid belief system. The choice to accept is just as valid as the choice to hate. Both are equal and opposite.
Forcing acceptance onto others is forcing people to change their belief systems.
Would you change your belief system on demand because somebody else decided they didn't like what you believed?
No. So why do we continue to try to do this to each other?
We do it because what we see is that when the hate is projected out it causes pain. Acceptance projected out doesn't necessarily cause pain. Hate means you deny service to somebody. Acceptance means everybody is welcome. One causes pain and one doesn't. That simple difference is why we try to force change onto people. We see the denial as mean or cruel or racist and so on. Because we see it that way we try to demand change and we stop seeing the hate as a valid belief system.
We can't continue to respond this way to each other because it doesn't work. The demand to change their belief system or to accept people they have decided to hate is not going to fly. We're not going to get anywhere doing that. We have to change the conversation by looking for the root cause of the hate and then working to heal that.
A person's ability to question their own beliefs is limited by the amount of fear they have around changing or questioning that belief. The more afraid they are of the consequences of changing it, the less likely they are to question it.
We can't demand acceptance. We have to heal the hate instead. Those are two entirely different things and they require two entirely different approaches.
It's time to change the conversation.
Love to all.
Della